Mum bans her parents from cuddling toddler grandchild without permission

Many parents aim to raise children who are independent and can make decisions for themselves.

So to instil these values in her little one early on, a mum is teaching her daughter about consent.

Brittany Baxter wants her one-year-old to have the right to show affection when she wants to.

Family members aren’t allowed to insist on hugs and kisses – they must ask the tot for permission first.

On TikTok, Brittany explained: "As a parent I practice consent with my daughter and something's really been bothering me, so I thought why not take it to TikTok so we can talk about it.

"Can we please start normalising the fact that kids do not have to kiss in front of adults? My daughter's almost two years old and I've been in the process of teaching her consent basically since the day that she's been born.”

Brittany added: “I find it really f**king unhelpful when the adults in her life are like 'What?! We have to ask for a kiss and a hug?', even though I've explained why multiple times.

"And then when she says no, they're like 'Oh she doesn't love me my feelings are so hurt' and then they proceed to overstep her body boundaries anyway.

"My daughter and her body do not exist to make anyone feel more comfortable and to make anyone feel more loved, it is not her fault and it's not my fault that the older generation haven't taken the time throughout their entire lives to learn how to regulate their emotions so consent doesn't continue to be overlooked.

"No one's feelings are ever going to be more important than my daughter's right to her own body and I'm sure as s**t not going to allow her to grow up in an environment where 1. She doesn't know how to say no, and 2. She doesn't know what it looks like for her no to be respected.

"Grandparents do better."

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Brittany advised other parents to “stand firm” when relatives are demanding affection from their children.

More than 300,000 people have watched the mum’s TikTok video about the subject.

And many have praised the mum for speaking out.

One commenter said: “This is so important!

“My husband and I are teaching consent as well and recently started ASKING for hugs/kisses instead of saying ‘give me a hug’.”

Another responded: “50-year-old, proud uncle here.

“I learned early to ask – ‘would you like a hug, high five, nothing?’

“Always cool. Always supported. It’s so important.”

And a third added: “I agree with you. It’s my daughter’s choice.

“I don’t even make her kiss or hug me. And guess what? She chooses to do this randomly and it means so much.”

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