{"id":67148,"date":"2023-08-26T00:57:53","date_gmt":"2023-08-26T00:57:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/likecelebwn.com\/?p=67148"},"modified":"2023-08-26T00:57:53","modified_gmt":"2023-08-26T00:57:53","slug":"i-got-a-sleazy-text-from-a-work-colleague-should-i-report-him-to-hr","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/likecelebwn.com\/lifestyle\/i-got-a-sleazy-text-from-a-work-colleague-should-i-report-him-to-hr\/","title":{"rendered":"I got a sleazy text from a work colleague &#8211; should I report him to HR?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>I got a sleazy text from a work colleague after meeting him for the first time &#8211; should I report him to HR?<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>A woman sparked a debate online after wondering should she report a\u00a0<\/strong><span>colleague<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span>Read More: Woman said her boyfriend told her she needs to be &#8216;more like a lady&#8217;<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A woman has sparked a debate online after revealing her male colleague sent her &#8216;a sleazy text&#8217; and wondering whether she should report him.<\/p>\n<p>Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained that she met a new colleague and had to work on a project with him for an hour but was shocked to receive an unprofessional message from him after work.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The man, who is 10 years the women&#8217;s senior, apparently asked if she &#8216;had any single friends&#8217;.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Some claimed the woman should &#8216;report him to HR&#8217; while others thought she should &#8216;ignore&#8217; the message and &#8216;move on&#8217;.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>The post read: &#8216;I work in a job where we occasionally work with different people from various areas, sometimes we can work with someone once then not see them again for weeks.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559613-12429127-A_woman_sparked_a_debate_on_Mumsnet_after_revealing_her_male_col-a-10_1692685543178.jpg\" height=\"427\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>A woman sparked a debate on Mumsnet after revealing her male colleague sent her &#8216;a sleazy text&#8217; and she wondering should she report him (stock image)\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Anyway, I worked with a male before around 10 years older. We&#8217;re required to have all colleagues&#8217; numbers to arrange meeting times.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I worked with him for around an hour as required, he seemed pleasant. Asked me if I were married but I thought it was just chit chat.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I arrived home and an hour ago I received a text saying &#8221;Got any single friends for me?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I haven&#8217;t replied. Not sure whether to ignore\/reply\/report to HR?<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Unfortunately not the first time I&#8217;ve had things like this. It&#8217;s out of order. My reply would be telling him it&#8217;s completely inappropriate.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;This is the first time I&#8217;ve ever met him by the way.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Views were mixed and many rushed to the comments to leave their thoughts, with some claiming she should speak to HR.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>One person wrote: &#8216;Don&#8217;t engage, screenshot and report to HR.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Another said: &#8216;I would keep the reply simple: &#8216;this is not an appropriate text and this number should only be used for work-related messages&#8217;.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559829-12429127-image-a-4_1692685542147.jpg\" height=\"54\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559829-12429127-image-a-3_1692685542146.jpg\" height=\"288\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559851-12429127-Taking_to_British_parenting_platform_Mumsnet_the_woman_explained-a-13_1692685544160.jpg\" height=\"88\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained that she met a new colleague and had to work on a project with him for an hour but was shocked to receive an unprofessional message from him after work<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I would then forward the message and my reply to HR &#8216;for information&#8217; so that a clear and transparent record has been made of the interaction.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While someone else wrote: &#8216;I would tell HR. This is completely inappropriate and why should you ignore it just because it\u2019s the first time?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;I bet he wouldn\u2019t be texting a male colleague like that, complete with a sleazy wink, after just meeting them just once.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;It\u2019s misogynistic and unprofessional, he has been given your number to organise work stuff so this isn\u2019t a reasonable way for him to use it. Report it and let HR decide whether this crosses a line.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While someone else said: &#8216;I would take it to HR and mention that it made you uncomfortable that he also asked if you were married while you were working together. (It&#8217;s the following it up with the text that is the problem.)<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Meh, when I first started work I remember being advised to wear a ring on my wedding ring finger to avoid being hassled by male &#8216;colleagues&#8217; &#8211; like to think we&#8217;ve moved past that but clearly not.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559817-12429127-image-a-9_1692685543178.jpg\" height=\"203\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559837-12429127-image-a-16_1692685544164.jpg\" height=\"63\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559847-12429127-image-a-8_1692685543177.jpg\" height=\"163\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559857-12429127-image-a-14_1692685544161.jpg\" height=\"192\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559861-12429127-Some_claimed_the_woman_should_report_him_to_HR_while_others_thou-a-15_1692685544163.jpg\" height=\"123\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Some claimed the woman should &#8216;report him to HR&#8217; while others thought she should &#8216;ignore&#8217; the message and &#8216;move on&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While a fourth wrote: &#8216;HR need to know that this is going on, because it is why it is inappropriate for people to be made to share their personal phone numbers.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;OP might be happy to handle it themselves on a first occasion, but they need to tell HR that on a number of occasions they have received inappropriate messages, and please could the policy on sharing personal numbers be reviewed.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;If they&#8217;re getting the same complaints from others, they may then be interested in names, because if the same person is doing it to multiple colleagues, that needs acting on.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Others thought it was too harsh to go straight to HR as she had only received one message from him.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>One person said: &#8216;Shut it down but don&#8217;t go to HR after one message unless you want them to take it further.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>Another wrote: &#8216;Just ignore it. I can&#8217;t believe how many posters would go running to HR. If he persists then that is when you escalate.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559853-12429127-image-a-20_1692685544712.jpg\" height=\"218\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559843-12429127-image-a-11_1692685544150.jpg\" height=\"84\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559845-12429127-image-a-17_1692685544165.jpg\" height=\"155\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559839-12429127-image-a-19_1692685544168.jpg\" height=\"71\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559841-12429127-image-a-5_1692685542148.jpg\" height=\"71\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559827-12429127-image-a-12_1692685544152.jpg\" height=\"86\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559819-12429127-image-a-18_1692685544166.jpg\" height=\"80\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559823-12429127-image-a-6_1692685543174.jpg\" height=\"63\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/08\/22\/07\/74559813-12429127-Others_thought_it_was_too_harsh_to_go_straight_to_HR_as_she_had_-a-7_1692685543176.jpg\" height=\"148\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Others thought it was too harsh to go straight to HR as she had only received one message from him<\/p>\n<p>Someone else said: &#8216;A simple erm no should be enough OP. Think the HR talk is a bit much unless he continues.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>While a fourth wrote: &#8216; I think not everything life is that deep. he&#8217;s not asked you if you&#8217;re single so I would ignore.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;Maybe he&#8217;s neurodivergent and doesn&#8217;t get that you&#8217;re still colleagues and not friends and so you&#8217;re not the one to ask about prospective introductions.<\/p>\n<p>&#8216;If he messages again then fair enough, highlight it.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>The OP came to a conclusion saying: &#8216;Yeah, maybe I will leave it for now but involve HR if any further messages.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12429127\/I-got-sleazy-text-work-colleague-meeting-time-report-HR.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I got a sleazy text from a work colleague after meeting him for the first time &#8211; should I report him to HR? 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